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Why even go for the gold?

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If you are going to try…
 
…then try ALL of the angles.
 
Turn over all of the stones.
 
Throw every hat you have into that ring!
 
As Brené Brown suggests: If you are going to dare, dare greatly.
 
Why?
 
Because, ironically, exhausting every angle, every contact, and every avenue available to you is how you buffer yourself against the pain that comes should you end up not getting what you heart desires.
 
In my line of work, I see a lot of folks reaching towards goals…
 
…trying to get a job.
…trying to get seen for a role.
…trying to sell their product.
 
And I get bummed watching them try once or twice – or try only one or two things.
 
I know that they genuinely want what they are trying to get.
 
I also know that they have never yet in their life challenged themselves enough to experience the vast emotional distance between “I tried and didn’t get it” and “I tried everything I could think of and didn’t get it.”
 
“I tried” may lead to a victory…
 
…but “I tried everything I could think of” is a victory in and of itself.
 
 
Keep betting on yourself – I believe in you,

 
 
 
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Are you waiting for your happy to arrive?

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“Forget your troubles…
 
…come on, get happy”oh, WAIT – forgetting your troubles isn’t actually necessary!
 
Nor is chartering a yacht off St. Barts.
 
(Although that would be niiiiiice.)
 
Yet circumstances and things are, in truth, only happiness boosters – elevating the happy* you already have inside.
 
And, certainly, circumstances and things can momentarily distract you from the fact that your happy* flame might be burning a bit low.
 
But do not forget that YOU are the keeper of that flame… and you have the power to make it burn, baby, burn, no matter where you are and no matter what’s going on.
 
 
(*By “happy” I don’t mean forcing yourself to be a cheery-pants Pollyanna. I simply mean doing the best you can to enjoy your unique blend of contentment, joy, good humor, and positivity.)
 
 
Keep betting on yourself – I believe in you,

 
 

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Once upon a time…

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I am curious…
 
…when you corner someone by the campfire and tell them your tale, is it one of wonder or of woe?
 
This matters.
 
Because the story I’m talking about is the one you’re telling about yourself.
 
Usually a past self. Usually a less happy or less fortunate self.
 
And while stories of woe might affect the listener, they always affect the teller.
 
(A listener may walk away with a bad taste in their mouth, but the teller is regularly marinating in the story’s negative juices.)
 
Yet you select this version to tell (over and over again) because there is a hidden benefit (or two) that you receive from telling it…
 
…maybe you get sympathy.

…maybe you get less worked added to your pile.

…maybe you get to keep your membership in the “us vs. them” club.
 
Who knows? (Well, deep down inside, you know.)
 
And I get it – for a minute or two the hidden benefit makes you feel good.
 
In the end, however, stories of your woes keep you stuck because people believe the you that you show them.
 
Paint a self-portrait of woe and they’ll say: “Ah, yes, I see – that is you.”
 
Paint that same self-portrait using a palette of empowerment, vision, positivity, enthusiasm, and hopefulness, and they’ll say: “Ah, yes, I see – that is you.”
 
Most importantly though, with whichever story you chose to tell (or whichever portrait you choose to paint), you’ll be saying to yourself:
 
“Ah, yes, I see – that is me.”
 
 
Keep betting on yourself – I believe in you,

 
 

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