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Are you waiting for your happy to arrive?

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“Forget your troubles…
 
…come on, get happy”oh, WAIT – forgetting your troubles isn’t actually necessary!
 
Nor is chartering a yacht off St. Barts.
 
(Although that would be niiiiiice.)
 
Yet circumstances and things are, in truth, only happiness boosters – elevating the happy* you already have inside.
 
And, certainly, circumstances and things can momentarily distract you from the fact that your happy* flame might be burning a bit low.
 
But do not forget that YOU are the keeper of that flame… and you have the power to make it burn, baby, burn, no matter where you are and no matter what’s going on.
 
 
(*By “happy” I don’t mean forcing yourself to be a cheery-pants Pollyanna. I simply mean doing the best you can to enjoy your unique blend of contentment, joy, good humor, and positivity.)
 
 
Keep betting on yourself – I believe in you,

 
 

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Once upon a time…

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I am curious…
 
…when you corner someone by the campfire and tell them your tale, is it one of wonder or of woe?
 
This matters.
 
Because the story I’m talking about is the one you’re telling about yourself.
 
Usually a past self. Usually a less happy or less fortunate self.
 
And while stories of woe might affect the listener, they always affect the teller.
 
(A listener may walk away with a bad taste in their mouth, but the teller is regularly marinating in the story’s negative juices.)
 
Yet you select this version to tell (over and over again) because there is a hidden benefit (or two) that you receive from telling it…
 
…maybe you get sympathy.

…maybe you get less worked added to your pile.

…maybe you get to keep your membership in the “us vs. them” club.
 
Who knows? (Well, deep down inside, you know.)
 
And I get it – for a minute or two the hidden benefit makes you feel good.
 
In the end, however, stories of your woes keep you stuck because people believe the you that you show them.
 
Paint a self-portrait of woe and they’ll say: “Ah, yes, I see – that is you.”
 
Paint that same self-portrait using a palette of empowerment, vision, positivity, enthusiasm, and hopefulness, and they’ll say: “Ah, yes, I see – that is you.”
 
Most importantly though, with whichever story you chose to tell (or whichever portrait you choose to paint), you’ll be saying to yourself:
 
“Ah, yes, I see – that is me.”
 
 
Keep betting on yourself – I believe in you,

 
 

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Do you believe in magic?

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It’s soooo tempting to buy…
 
…when you hear a persuasive sales pitch:
 
THIS IS THE THING you and your career need now!
 
And maybe you do.
 
(And maybe you don’t.)
 
But I can guarantee that no matter what the “it” is –
 
a class
a book
an app
a product
a session
a membership
a gadget
 
– “it” won’t do the trick unless you have the magic formula:
 
right tool (for the) right job (at the) right time
 
 
:: Purchasing a tool and never using it does nothing for you.
 
:: Purchasing a tool to fix an issue that the tool cannot actually fix does nothing for you.
 
:: Purchasing a tool in hopes that the act of spending money will boost your level of motivation to apply the tool usually does nothing for you.
 
 
Yeah, yeah, yeah – BUT:
 
Our wish is that the tool will magically do the work for us.
 
Our fear is that if we don’t get the tool everyone will have access to the magic but us.
 
Our hope is that the tool will be the magical missing piece of our success puzzle.
 
 
(I’ve wrestled with all of the above myself – many times.)
 
Which is why I offer this reminder:
 
Using the right tool for the right job at the right time is super-duper-helpful… but the only thing that contains any magic is YOU.
 
 
Keep betting on yourself – I believe in you,

 
 

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