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Don’t worry, you’re not a loser.

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Someone else’s gain…
 
…is not necessarily your loss.
 
Even if it feels like it is.
 
Chances are, those feelings are being generated by your erroneous thoughts:
 
They got the job you wanted = you lost the job.
 
Well, not quite.
 
Because not getting something is different than having something taken from you.
 
And it’s important to recognize that in only one of those scenarios have you suffered an actual loss of anything.
 
Which means in only one of those scenarios is any “suffering” necessary.
 
It’s totally understandable to feel disappointed that you didn’t get what you wanted, but putting yourself through the emotional wringer of grieving a “phantom loss” is a huge and unnecessary expenditure of your energy.
 
(Plus, all that misplaced suffering interferes with your opportunity to practice feeling genuinely happy for someone else’s gain.)
 
 
Keep betting on yourself – I believe in you,

 
 

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Make it or break it time…

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How do you handle…
 
…high-stakes opportunities?
 
I’m talking about those moments when it’s actually possible that one of your dreams could actually come true.
 
How do you keep from psyching yourself out or buckling under the pressure?
 
One of the quickest, easiest things you can do to alleviate some of that in-the-heat-of-the-moment anxiety is to change your grammar:
 
Rather than tell yourself that “this is THE opportunity I’ve been waiting for,” tell yourself that “this is “AN opportunity…”
 
…which implies that there will be other opportunities.
 
And there will be.
 
AND, just because you can’t imagine the “what, where, when, or how” of those future opportunities, doesn’t mean that they aren’t coming your way.
 
 
Keep betting on yourself – I believe in you,

 
 

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Best news of your day!

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You are absolutely right…
 
…life is not fair.
 
Hooray!!!!!!!!!!!
 
And I’m not kidding when I say that this perspective shift can be the best news of your day.
 
 
Keep betting on yourself – I believe in you,

 
 

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