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What is your speed limit?

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What if I told you…
 
…that moving forward along your path in life has more to do with how you apply the brakes than when you apply the gas?
 
Well, if you are on the right path and in alignment and taking strategic action in the direction of your dreams, your life will begin to unfold before you.
 
Better yet, it will unfold in Perfect Timing – the best things happening at the best possible times.
 
(Does “best” mean only sunshine and rainbows in your life? Of course not. “Best” sometimes means “opportunities for growth,” a.k.a. having the you-know-what hit the fan. But, you know, hitting it in the best possible way.)
 
 
Perfect Timing, by it’s very definition, can’t be rushed.
 
So the question is always: Do you want what you want NOW! NOW! NOW! on your schedule? Or would you prefer things happen for you at the VERY BEST POSSIBLE times so that your efforts, experiences, and results are maximized?
 
Those are two very different choices.
 
If you choose the latter, then there’s no reason for you to be leaning so hard on the gas pedal, right?
 
You can’t rush something that can’t be rushed.
 
But you can slow it down.
 
You can employ little (and big) acts of self-sabotage to interfere with Perfect Timing.
 
Resistance, poor coping mechanisms, lack of trust, perfectionism, blocking yourself from receiving, breaking promises to yourself and others, etc., are all ways you keep your foot on the brakes and sloooooooooow your progress.
 
When our progress is too slow for our liking, our usual solution is “more gas!” But then we end up stalled and perplexed, with one foot on the gas and one foot on the brakes.
 
Focus on learning how to keep your foot off of the brakes.
 
Do that, and the ride will be much faster and way more fun.
 
 
Keep betting on yourself – I believe in you,

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Your way or the higher way?

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So, tell me…
 
…how tight is the grip that you have on your life?
 
Now, be careful in answering that, because a tight grip doesn’t always look like a firm, capable, buttoned-up, “you-better-stand-back-cuz-I-got-this” grip.
 
You can be strangling the life out of your life with a ceaseless swirl of chaos / drama / risk / impulsiveness that seems to others to be very out-of-control, but is, in fact, your version of control.
 
Because control isn’t about perfection.
 
Control is ultimately about comfort and (a false sense of) security.
 
When we believe that events or people are threatening our desires and dreams, we often tighten our grip regarding “how things should be” and hunker down in our comfort zone.
 
The problem with this strategy is that we can’t reach our dreams from inside our comfort zones.
 
The other problem is that trying to control the external factors in our life uses up a LOT of energy.
 
And yet another problem is that the feeling of “security” we are trying to generate through external machinations is actually something that can only be generated internally.
 
Ironically – and ever so frustrating! – this internal sense of security is cultivated by learning how to surrender your grip on the steering wheel of your life.
 
Way, way, WAY easier said than done? Oh, for sure.
 
This has been a long learning curve in my own life and one I have certainly not mastered.
 
That said, surrendering this illusion of control is something I continue to attend to and refine because I know that doing so will help me reach my own next levels of success.
 
 
Keep betting on yourself – I believe in you,

 
 
 
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Things are about to get messy…

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What if…
 
…Michelangelo had to answer emails?
 
I wonder if his phone would even get reception while up at the ceiling of the Sistine Chapel?
 
Well, it doesn’t matter because he probably wouldn’t have answered it.
 
(Even with his patrons getting majorly cranky when their calls did not get returned!)
 
But what is an artist to do?
 
Masterpieces aren’t created while multi-tasking.
 
Now, is everything you work on a “masterpiece”? No, of course not.
 
Every once in awhile, though, a project will come along that requires you diving deep into creator mode.
 
And when you do, know that things in your life are gonna get a bit messier than you are probably comfortable with.
 
And also know that THAT’S OKAY.
 
But even though it’s “okay,” this discomfort around not being able to keep all of their other plates spinning while they create is what prompts some folks to shortchange their projects – to give far less than their very best.
 
Please find a way past that discomfort.
 
Let folks know you are “going under” but will resurface soon.
 
Find a way to reassemble your shredded to-do list once your project is done.
 
 
Yes, creation is sometimes messy and often inconvenient.
 
But usually worth it, don’t you think?
 
 
Keep betting on yourself – I believe in you,

 
 
 
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