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Significant shifts require some bold moves…

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The crazy thing is…
 
…your comfort zone has an elastic waistband!
 
And each Bold Move you make stretches it wider and wider – increasing your capacity for success.
 
(Or for pie.)
 
What qualifies as a Bold Move?
 
That’s for you to define for yourself.
 
:: It’s that idea you kinda wish you hadn’t had…

:: The plan which makes you nervous yet excited…

:: Or very likely that thing you’re putting off (and putting off…)
 
 
Once upon a time for me it was dropping off my head shots to casting directors. Once upon a time for someone else it was carving Mt. Rushmore.
 
It’s not the size of a Bold Move that matters but the fact that the doing of it takes you into uncharted territory and challenges you – even just a wee bit – to risk and grow and trust and s-t-r-e-t-c-h.
 
It requires you to step into the shoes of the person you want to be.
 
And eventually (amazingly) those moves become “no big deal, been there, done that” sorts of things.
 
And please take a moment to celebrate every Bold Move you make!
 
(That’s where the pie comes in.)
 
 
Keep betting on yourself – I believe in you,

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An insight that can make you feel better…

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This was by far…
 
…one of the most stress-relieving realizations I ever had:
 
Being good at something does not necessarily equate with feeling good at it (a.k.a feeling good while doing it).
 
For example:
 
I had become effective at networking – but didn’t realize it because I still never felt comfortable while doing it.
 
I had assumed that developing my networking skills would also mean that I would eventually feel more and more at ease while connecting with people.
 
That last part hasn’t happened yet (and quite possibly never will), BUT, fortunately, I now realize that my feelings are quite separate from my abilities.
 
To which area of your life might this same little insight apply?
 
And why is that worth asking yourself?

:: So you can fully own the level of skill you have cultivated (and celebrate it!)

:: So you can eliminate stress in certain areas that you are actually quite solid in.

:: So you can relax into (rather than resist) the feelings of weirdness and discomfort that may always linger around certain areas of your life.
 
Shifts which result in plugging holes where your energy was unnecessarily leaking away.
 
As the sage Christopher Robin once told the mighty Pooh:
 
Promise me you’ll always remember that you’re braver than you believe, stronger than you seem, and smarter than you think.
 
 
Keep betting on yourself – I believe in you,

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Do you punish yourself when you stray?

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I love structure…
 
…and I love ice cream.
 
(Both can make your day so much better!)
 
But both become far less enjoyable when accompanied by sprinkles of reprimands or guilt.
 
Keep reminding yourself: plans and structure are only tools.
 
They will never enable you to control or dictate what life brings (in the next month, in the next day, in the next minute).
 
Life – glorious, confounding life – is fluid.
 
And sometimes it can flood in and completely wash your carefully crafted schedule away.
 
Guess what?
 
That’s not your fault and it happens to everyone.
 
(Over and over and over. Especially when you are a self-propelled creative artist! What two days are ever alike?)
 
However, that’s NOT a reason to abandon structure.
 
But it IS a reason to stop beating yourself up each time you stray off course.
 
Plans and structure will keep you flowing in the right direction when the waters of your life are calm…
 
…and, after each flood, there they will be, waiting for you to climb on board once more.
 
 
Keep betting on yourself – I believe in you,

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