Gain the wisdom and strength to handle whatever life brings.
Gain the wisdom and strength
to handle whatever life brings.
Gain the wisdom and strength to handle whatever life brings.
A top-notch group coaching program
for Modern Caregivers worldwide.
A top-notch group coaching program
for Modern Caregivers worldwide.
Does this sound familiar?
You are a big-hearted, get-it-done person.
Your life was already full – with multiple demands on your time and energy – even before you started caring for your friend or family member.
Perhaps you’re the person that your family (or community) naturally leans on for support or advice… so, naturally, you stepped-up when this person needed care.
Or perhaps (like me), your life was laser-focused on your Big Plans – and caregiving was definitely not part of those plans.
Maybe your involvement and responsibilities grew slowly, gradually.
Or maybe caregiving crashed into your life.
But your heart wanted to help.
So you made the commitment.
And yet…
…you aren’t able to devote your entire life to giving care (as society has relied on so many women to do throughout history).
…you know that “pressing pause” on your life is a myth (this IS your life – extra years won’t be magically added to the end of it as a thank you bonus).
…you are also concerned that your own desires and plans and goals are being crushed / diminished / swept aside by the demands of supporting someone else during their crisis or throughout their chronic condition (or their decline towards death).
You might be getting caught in spin-cycles of sadness / anger / worry / frustration about how your career or your home life or your own health is being impacted by these added responsibilities (and shifts in your family relationships).
Maybe your own physical limitations prevent you from giving as much care as you’d like to.
Or maybe you’re exhausting yourself in a heroic attempt to save your loved one from their circumstances.
Yeah. This is difficult stuff.
Caregiving is one of the most complex challenges life has to offer – physically, emotionally, mentally, relationally, and financially.
Even so, I know you will make it through.
But I want you to make it through with your own life and wellbeing intact.
This was not the plan I had for my 40’s.
In many respects, I was a reluctant, deficient caregiver. I did many things wrong – but I did one thing very, very right…
…I chose, at every opportunity, to not just go through this experience, but to grow through it.
I learned how to plug my largest mental energy leaks, to ask for help, and to feel my feelings. And I discovered that no one ever dies from discomfort (even though sometimes you wish that you would).
That’s why I was able to exit the caregiving tunnel without being thoroughly drained, demoralized, or derailed.
That’s what I want for you, too.
That’s why I created You First – a top-notch group coaching program to help Modern Caregivers sustain themselves through this extraordinarily challenging (and sometimes excruciating) chapter of life.
Yes, the person you are caring for needs support –
but YOU are allowed to get some support, too.
Does this sound familiar?
You are a big-hearted, get-it-done person.
Your life was already full – with multiple demands on your time and energy – even before you started caring for your friend or family member.
Perhaps you’re the person that your family (or community) naturally leans on for support or advice… so, naturally, you stepped-up when this person needed care.
Or perhaps (like me), your life was laser-focused on your Big Plans – and caregiving was definitely not part of those plans.
Maybe your involvement and responsibilities grew slowly, gradually.
Or maybe caregiving crashed into your life.
But your heart wanted to help.
So you made the commitment.
And yet…
…you aren’t able to devote your entire life to giving care (as society has relied on so many women to do throughout history).
…you know that “pressing pause” on your life is a myth (this IS your life – extra years won’t be magically added to the end of it as a thank you bonus).
…you are also concerned that your own desires and plans and goals are being crushed / diminished / swept aside by the demands of supporting someone else during their crisis or throughout their chronic condition (or their decline towards death).
You might be getting caught in spin-cycles of sadness / anger / worry / frustration about how your career or your home life or your own health is being impacted by these added responsibilities (and shifts in your family relationships).
Maybe your own physical limitations prevent you from giving as much care as you’d like to.
Or maybe you’re exhausting yourself in a heroic attempt to save your loved one from their circumstances.
Yeah. This is difficult stuff.
Caregiving is one of the most complex challenges life has to offer – physically, emotionally, mentally, relationally, and financially.
Even so, I know you will make it through.
But I want you to make it through with your own life and wellbeing intact.
This was not the plan I had for my 40’s.
In many respects, I was a reluctant, deficient caregiver. I did many things wrong – but I did one thing very, very right…
…I chose, at every opportunity, to not just go through this experience, but to grow through it.
I learned how to plug my largest mental energy leaks, to ask for help, and to feel my feelings. And I discovered that no one ever dies from discomfort (even though sometimes you wish that you would).
That’s why I was able to exit the caregiving tunnel without being thoroughly drained, demoralized, or derailed.
That’s what I want for you, too.
That’s why I created You First – a top-notch group coaching program to help Modern Caregivers sustain themselves through this extraordinarily challenging (and sometimes excruciating) chapter of life.
Does this sound familiar?
You are a big-hearted, get-it-done person.
Your life was already full – with multiple demands on your time and energy – even before you started caring for your friend or family member.
Perhaps you’re the person that your family (or community) naturally leans on for support or advice… so, naturally, you stepped-up when this person needed care.
Or perhaps (like me), your life was laser-focused on your Big Plans – and caregiving was definitely not part of those plans.
Maybe your involvement and responsibilities grew slowly, gradually.
Or maybe caregiving crashed into your life.
But your heart wanted to help.
So you made the commitment.
And yet…
…you aren’t able to devote your entire life to giving care (as society has relied on so many women to do throughout history).
…you know that “pressing pause” on your life is a myth (this IS your life – extra years won’t be magically added to the end of it as a thank you bonus).
…you are also concerned that your own desires and plans and goals are being crushed / diminished / swept aside by the demands of supporting someone else during their crisis or throughout their chronic condition (or their decline towards death).
You might be getting caught in spin-cycles of sadness / anger / worry / frustration about how your career or your home life or your own health is being impacted by these added responsibilities (and shifts in your family relationships).
Maybe your own physical limitations prevent you from giving as much care as you’d like to.
Or maybe you’re exhausting yourself in a heroic attempt to save your loved one from their circumstances.
Yeah. This is difficult stuff.
Caregiving is one of the most complex challenges life has to offer – physically, emotionally, mentally, relationally, and financially.
Even so, I know you will make it through.
But I want you to make it through with your own life and wellbeing intact.
This was not the plan I had for my 40’s.
In many respects, I was a reluctant, deficient caregiver. I did many things wrong – but I did one thing very, very right…
…I chose, at every opportunity, to not just go through this experience, but to grow through it.
I learned how to plug my largest mental energy leaks, to ask for help, and to feel my feelings. And I discovered that no one ever dies from discomfort (even though sometimes you wish that you would).
That’s why I was able to exit the caregiving tunnel without being thoroughly drained, demoralized, or derailed.
That’s what I want for you, too.
And that’s why I created You First – a top-notch group coaching program to help Modern Caregivers sustain themselves through this extraordinarily challenging (and sometimes excruciating) chapter of life.
Yes, the person you are caring for needs support – but YOU are allowed to get some support, too.
Kristine really removed the sense of hopelessness I was feeling. I see that I’m allowed to have a life instead of feeling like the only way to be “a good Puerto Rican daughter” is to lay my life aside for them.
Kristine really removed the sense of hopelessness I was feeling. I see that I’m allowed to have a life instead of feeling like the only way to be “a good Puerto Rican daughter” is to lay my life aside for them.
Lighten your caregiver load – for free!
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Tell me the best place to send ’em to you:
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Lighten your caregiver load – for free!
These little :90 second videos will pop into your inbox once a week to help you plug the most common caregiver energy leaks.
Tell me the best place to send ’em to you:
You can unsubscribe at anytime. I appreciate your interest and value your trust.
Lighten your caregiver load – for free!
These little :90 second videos will pop into your inbox once a week to help you plug the most common caregiver energy leaks.
Tell me the best place to send ’em to you:
You can unsubscribe at anytime. I appreciate your interest and value your trust.
You know what’s super fun?
Guilt.
Do you feel some guilt when you turn your attention to your own life and goals?
Or when angry, ungenerous thoughts pop up in your head (or out of your mouth) when you are extra-tired or frustrated?
Or when you consider spending money on guidance for yourself when the person you are caring for requires your financial support?
The guilt is real.
So is the shame, anger, and sorrow.
These heavy feelings are companions to caregiving, making everything a bit more difficult – decisions, emotions, family dynamics, competing agendas, priorities, etc.
Very often, smart, capable people are the ones who feel the most ashamed, confused, and anxiety-ridden as caregivers.
Because we’re used to heavy lifting.
We’re used to being self-sufficient and not needing help.
We’re used to fixing and solving and saving the day.
Why aren’t our superpowers working anymore?
Caregiving is rough on the body, mind, and soul.
You might need some guidance to unwind from the stories, spin cycles, and mental energy leaks that add to the stress of your caregiving circumstances.
And, while free support groups are important (especially those that connect you with a community caring for people with the same ailment), you might feel undernourished in these groups.
You might be yearning for a type of strategic, growth-oriented coaching that those particular environments aren’t designed to provide.
In You First we don’t focus on the issues that person you are caring for is facing, we focus on the issues YOU are facing while you are caring for that person. So that you will be able to sustain yourself – especially if this becomes a long-haul.
Joining You First will help you learn how to reduce the daily frustrations and frictions that drain you of energy.
Joining You First will give you a safe space where you can process your thoughts and feelings (and say the scary / spiteful / shameful stuff out loud) without feeling judged.
Joining You First will ensure that you receive personalized, long-term support throughout the ups and downs of your caregiving journey (rather than having to “make do” with a single course or class or a just few, expensive private sessions with a therapist or coach).
Caregiving doesn’t have to take
all of you out of you.
You know what’s super fun?
Guilt.
Do you feel some guilt when you turn your attention to your own life and goals?
Or when angry, ungenerous thoughts pop up in your head (or out of your mouth) when you are extra-tired or frustrated?
Or when you consider spending money on guidance for yourself when the person you are caring for requires your financial support?
The guilt is real.
So is the shame, anger, and sorrow.
These heavy feelings are companions to caregiving, making everything a bit more difficult – decisions, emotions, family dynamics, competing agendas, priorities, etc.
Very often, smart, capable people are the ones who feel the most ashamed, confused, and anxiety-ridden as caregivers.
Because we’re used to heavy lifting.
We’re used to being self-sufficient and not needing help.
We’re used to fixing and solving and saving the day.
Why aren’t our superpowers working anymore?
Caregiving is rough on the body, mind, and soul.
You might need some guidance to unwind from the stories, spin cycles, and mental energy leaks that add to the stress of your caregiving circumstances.
And, while free support groups are important (especially those that connect you with a community caring for people with the same ailment), you might feel undernourished in these groups.
You might be yearning for more strategic and growth-oriented coaching that those particular environments aren’t designed to provide.
In You First we don’t focus on the issues that person you are caring for is facing, we focus on the issues YOU are facing while you are caring for that person. So that you will be able to sustain yourself – especially if this becomes a long-haul.
Joining You First will help you learn how to reduce the daily frustrations and frictions that drain you of energy.
Joining You First will give you a safe space where you can process your thoughts and feelings (and say the scary / spiteful / shameful stuff out loud) without feeling judged.
Joining You First will ensure that you receive personalized, long-term support throughout the ups and downs of your caregiving journey (rather than having to “make do” with a single course or class or a just few, expensive private sessions with a therapist or coach).