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As caregivers, it’s important to recognize two things.

Number one: Caregiving is an invitation for self-growth for everyone involved.

And number two: Not everyone will accept that invitation – or accept it within the same time-frame as you do or in the way that you want them to – and this can include the loved one you are caring for.

Getting frustrated by someone’s resistance to self-growth and reflection is normal and it’s also an enormous energy mental energy leak. Behind every frustration is an expectation – a story that you’ve told yourself about how things should unfold and how people should act and react.

I recommend reexamining some of your stories so that you can shift some of your expectations. Doing so will reduce your frustrations and thus conserve more of your mental energy.

Would it be great if everyone involved stepped up to the plate in a mature, generous way – yes.

If they don’t will some stuff likely hit the fan – yes.

But is it way more important for you to preserve your well-being by letting go of repeatedly trying to influence people who are not open to your input – yes, yes it is.

The more mental energy you are able to conserve, the more you have available to use to stay connected to yourself and your goals while you give care.

If this resonates with you, let me know.

Thank you for being one of the ones who care.

P.S.
Details about my group coaching program for caregivers are here.