A few additional thoughts:
Have you ever said…
…“but I have to do this” (uttered with a disgruntled sigh of resignation)?
And then, did you take a moment to examine if that statement was, in fact, really, really, really, really, really, really, true?
Because what if it’s NOT true?
Well, that would mean that you don’t actually have to do it.
Which would mean that you are choosing to do it to avoid all the stuff you’d have to deal with if you choose NOT to do it.
Which is a fine, understandable choice… just please be honest with yourself about it.
Fully empowered adults do not hide behind language that makes them sound like a victim of any aspect of their own life – especially when they are talking to themselves.